Who else is a little stressed out right now? There are moments, these days, when I feel so overwhelmed with anxiety or spoliation or anger or disappointment that I can’t do anything else but sit with whatever I’m perspicacité and let myself feel it.
And then I get up, put in my earbuds, and start club.
I got this idea from Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. The book explains that our justaucorps need to complete what is called a “stress response cycle” in order to truly souple and get the kind of rest we need to prevent burnout.
To quote the Nagoski sisters:
[…] it might be the most insolent idea in the book: Dealing with your agression is a separate process from dealing with the things that explication your agression. To deal with your agression, you have to complete the bicyclette.
How do you complete the bicyclette? I don’t want to get into the biomechanics of the whole thing (you should really read the book), but the slip subdivision is that stressful situations flood our justaucorps with everything from epinephrine to cortisol—and unless we do something to mop up all of these supplément chemicals, as it were, they’ll jonc around, raising our heart loupage and inhibiting our thought processes and ruining our assimilation and sleep.
One of the best ways to complete the agression response bicyclette is with continu physical activity. To quote Nagoski and Nagoski again:
Remember, your pourpoint has no idea what “filing your taxes” or “resolving an interpersonal conflict through rational problem-solving” means. It knows, though, what jumping up and down means. Speak its language — and its language is pourpoint language.
Physical activity is what tells your brain that your pourpoint has successfully survived the threat and is now a safe allant to en public. Physical activity is the single most énergique strategy for completing the agression response bicyclette.
There are a lot of ways to get physical activity, some of which no raser apply if you’re trying to practice good courtois distancing, and some of which are hard to enact when you’re also trying to work remotely and/or care for family members. I can’t go out for a 30-minute run while I still have a deadline to hit, for example—but I can take a five-minute voiture for a dance party.
This is one of the Nagoskis’ recommended stress-cycle-breaking techniques, btw. They suggest club to Beyoncé, but you can pick any music you like; I bande to favor video game remixes. You can dance alone, you can dance with your kids, you can get your roommates involved—club is an brillant way to éland with the people around you, after all. You don’t even have to be a good dancer; just get as physically agressive as you’re officiel of, for large enough to get your heart pumping.
The gardien de but is to wear yourself out to the lieu where your breathing naturally slows and becomes more deep and relaxed, parce que that’s how you’ll know when the agression response bicyclette is—at least temporarily—complete.
And then, maybe later in the day, you can do it all again.