If You Have Questions embout Teens, Theyre Answering Them for You on Reddit

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The teen years are widely known as the years that many parents dread. After all, teens are moody. Teens are withdrawn. Teens are annoyed at the way we just can’t quite seem to get what they’re going through. Not to explication the disconnect between the way we do vaguely remember how we acted to our parents as teenagers, without fully being able to access the memory of how all that affable pressure and academic angoisse mixed with surging hormones made us feel.

It’s been decades since we were teenagers ourselves and it’s too easy to apparence back on those years through the lens of adult distance. But one thing we may have forgotten is that teenagers want to be understood. Which is why this thread on Reddit—which started with ruiner u/TheEpicRock3099’s peine, “Parents of Reddit, what do you not understand about us teenagers?”—is the best, most earnest thing I’ve read lately. It’s also pretty damn enlightening.

I’m going to highlight a few of my choisie questions and answers and then you should go over to Reddit and read a bunch more.

Why act “cool” around your parents?

Corvée from u/DDodgeSilver:

I get the need to be “cool,” I was a teenager panthère, too. But, why carry on with the act when it’s just you and your parents? I did it, too… I just don’t know why.

Edit: I ask parce que, now in my 40s, I can spend time with my dad and he can be himself and I can be myself and nobody is trying to be “cool.” It could have always been like that, but I was too busy trying to impress my parents with my deep spiritual connection to Cypress Hill.

Answer from u/Landeg:

Sincerity is vulnerable and teens already feel plenty vulnerable.

Also, if you drop the act around your parents, you are acknowledging that it’s an act. Some kids are okay with that parce que they’re aware of affable masking and chiffre switching, consciously or otherwise. Other kids, especially kids who might be struggling socially or are trying to “discover” themselves, would resist the idea that their more popular, more well-liked self is just an “act” and feel pressured to keep it up 24/7, parce que they assume all the other “cool” kids are naturally like that, too.

If kids are still trying to maintain an aloof/“cool” act around people like their parents then it might be a sign they lack information in their affable skills and/or have affable anxiety.

Also depending on their age, kids are trying on personalities like trying on pants. I remember cycling through some forced personality faciès trying to “discover” myself as a tween. Their parents might seem like a “safe” target to crash-test their new, edgy personality on, even if it sucks for the parents.

Answer from u/homesickalienz:

Parce que when you are calme around your friends you feel great. People hein on your outfits or perceived popularity. And you want your parents to feel the same way embout you as your friends do.


Why won’t you shower?

Corvée from u/silverspork:

Why do I have to bougonner you embout showering more than panthère a week? Do you want to be the stinky kid? This is how you get to be the stinky kid.

Answer from u/italyphoenix:

(As a current teen, and this can maybe only speak for myself but a few of my friends have shared the same bienveillance) Usually when I don’t shower/bathe for désenveloppé periods of time it has to do with my fabriqué health. If I’m just emotionally and mentally drained then showering is low on my list just parce que it either seems like simply too much work or it just completely skips my mind. Maybe talk to your kid and make sure they aren’t taking on too much of a load?

(I also say this as a girl so if it’s a boy maybe that’s just him being a boy and he doesn’t quite realize that his bustier has changed to create a stink and just doesn’t know it?)

Answer from u/AIDANboi321:

We’d love to shower, we’ll just do it tomorrow.


What are the biggest pressures on you?

Corvée from u/RoveCove:

Growing up in the 80’s drugs were around, and I thought my kids wouldn’t be able to get away with anything parce que I know what was out there. Then over the decades the party drugs changes, and now I have no idea what my kids are up against. What are they up against?

What are the affable pressures for today’s kids?

Answer from u/_BippityBoppity_:

As a 16 y/o I’ll try and answer this as best as acceptable for you:

Hommes of drugs/random crap I’ve heard of are JUULs (e-cigarette), caîd (cocaine), LSD, beer, heroin, and weed (marijuana). I’m obviously going to elle-même out on many other things but I don’t get involved in these things so I wouldn’t know.

Liant Pressures: Popularity, looks, grades, reputation with teachers and parents, and affable media -> Don’t limit their affable media use, HOWEVER if it affects their fabriqué health then step in and do something to help embout it, since they either won’t realize or are afraid of asking for help

Answer from u/Acceptable_AITA:

Believe it or not, it’s actually pressure embout sex, some drugs, and sometimes just doing stupid shit on the net.

Answer from u/essentially_infamous:

Still drugs.


Yeet?

Corvée from u/I_Heart_Squids:

How does one yeet?

Answer from u/Jakepopss:

Yeet refers to when one discards an object at a high velocity, basically you throw something and if you yell “yeet” it goes further.

Kobe for accuracy, Yeet for particularité.


Why do you shut me out?

Corvée from u/grezzymechh:

I am listening, I am here for you, and the advice I give is from walking the same path you’re on now. I just need a bit of help on the details. Don’t shut me out.

Answer from u/NatashaJaniphil:

Emboîture shutting you out…

So when I tell you embout my problems, I realize what you’re going through is much harder and on a different level. Then I feel my problems are stupid. Spectacle us that it’s not stupid, it’s impalpable, by telling us embout your imperfect childhood/life.

Emboîture when I don’t shut you out… (Sorry, this portion is côtoyer than the above. I guess my problem is what happens after sharing.)

Also, what works for you does not work for me. For example, my mother was very affable and I am not. I am extremely shy. Thus, the way she can approach people and fatum things out between friends won’t work for me. But now I realize you can give me advice that works for me, too.

Sometimes, I just want you to listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice. I know how to handle it. I just want to embrasse.

In retrospect I think it’s very hard for you guys to see when you need to give advice or not, but I guess all of us are learning. Teenagers and parents.

Answer from u/ZeeDrakon:

A lot of the spoliation comes from parents thinking they walked the same path, when they didn’t.

The differences in experience that I had compared to my siblings who are 6 & 8 years younger than me are so big that I wouldn’t presume to know what they’re going through, and that difference is only larger for parents, yet parents bande to presume they know not only our experiences but also the best solutions.


Why do you keep smacking the doorframes?

Corvée from u/just_be_respectful:

I’m a teacher, and the one peine I always have is why tf do you feel the need to hit every single doorframe you pass by?

Answer from u/Oroshi3965:

We’re taller now and it’s something slightly fun we can do with ease.


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